Tuesday, March 15, 2016

The Washington, DC Metro SHOULD be a National Embarrassment~



Americans like to consider the USA as the moral and military center of the free world. And Washington, District of Columbia, [aka D.C., Washington, the District, Washington, D.C.}, the seat of our federal government should represent that “shining city on the hill” that Ronald Reagan referenced to make “we the people” proud again.

The founding fathers conceived of a federal city with impressive architecture built on the banks of the Potomac, to serve as the Capitol of our new nation. Congress authorized the building of the Capitol Building, the White House, the Washington Monument, the Jefferson Memorial, the Lincoln Memorial, and a city built on a grid system that made it easy to navigate. I’ve no doubt if those who argued, compromised, served, and fought for our freedom would be horrified by the current state of the public transportation managed by the Washington Metropolitan Area Transit Authority (WMATA).

BUT – our elected officials do not ride the subway system in our national Capital, known as Metro. If they did the system would not be stuck in 1976. When Metro first opened for business it was impressive – a clean, efficient, 1st world public transport system that was the pride of DC. Visitors throughout the world who came to D.C. lauded the Metro, which today transports 700,000 people on a daily basis. Except – tomorrow Metro will be closed. Yep, the system that was the envy of the world 40 years ago is a mere shadow of its heyday. Today, it is a broken system, under-funded, run by bureaucrats, operated by union labor that cares not one whit for its customers, and a danger to riders.

D.C. has the second worst if not the worst traffic gridlock in the U.S.A.  The D.C. Metro has the second largest ridership in the country after the New York City subway. New York may have rats, but the subway operates efficiently. The D.C. metro is dirty; the escalators don’t work; there are no toilets; the ticket machines often don’t work; the trains are inconsistently operated; there are daily delays; the electronics have not been updated since the system was inaugurated; the D.C., Maryland, Virginia, and federal governments have argued over funding, expansion and maintenance and oversight.

When I commuted to an office in D.C. daily I was at the mercy of Metro. At least twice per week every rider was forced to disembark because of some unknown reason, and wait – sometimes for 20- 30 minutes – for an opportunity to board another train. In the meantime prices kept increasing. Customer service took a nose -dive. Reliability became non-existent; frustrations rose; ridership dropped; trains became less frequent; and nothing got better.

There have been numerous events that resulted in injury or death to riders. And yet – nobody seems to take ownership of the crisis!


If Washington is to be the federal city that represents the power and influence of America to the world, this is not the way to advertise our technological expertise. This is not the way to promote capitalism and democracy. This is not the way to celebrate the American way of life.


I am embarrassed. I am also one who has abandoned Metro. Instead, if I have to go to D.C., I drive. I spend 3 hours each way to drive from my home to my office to avoid the fear of death or at least the inconvenience of public transport. This is not the way it should be.

Sunday, March 13, 2016

2016 Fashion Resources for Women Over 40!



“The most important thing I can tell you about aging is this: If you really feel that you want to have an off-the-shoulder blouse and some big beads and thong sandals and a dirndl skirt and a magnolia in your hair, do it. Even if you're wrinkled. “
Maya Angelou

When I was a child all women of a certain age dressed like Aunt Bea on the Andy Griffith Show – house dresses with shelf – like bosoms.   There were no breasts. Those women had BOSOMS! Then in the ‘70’s the polyester double-knit pantsuit in pastel colors became ubiquitous. In the 80’s grandmothers seemed to gravitate towards sweatpants or other elastic waist pants with matching sweatshirts curiously appliqued with cutesy sayings, animals or other embellishments. And don’t forget the mom jeans of the 90’s! Or the oversized extravagantly colored stereotypical Florida retiree look of the Golden Girls!

Today’s women, however, are staying in the work-force longer, reinventing themselves and exploring new careers in mid-life, exercising, eating well, and maintaining a youthful spirit into their 80’s and beyond.  We want updated fashion that incorporates trends, is easy care, flattering, celebrates our changing bodies, relevant, and reflects our 21st Century selves.  In other words – we want it all (including a tasteful bit of animal print)!

When I first started writing my blog nearly three years ago, some friends asked me to put together a list of stores and websites where I’ve found great clothing, accessories, shoes, and other “must haves” for women over 40. Since the retail landscape has changed so dramatically over the past three years, I will update my lists over the next few posts.  My lists will include only places or sites where I have personally shopped.  

In addition to these lists I highly encourage every woman looking for something special to visit her local boutiques.  Local shop owners know the retail landscape in the area and offer an array of fashions and accessories that are not readily available online or at a department store. My local boutique is Simply Charming in Winchester, Virginia and I always find something unique that makes my heart sing.

My  “go to” stores or online sites offer excellent customer service, free or reasonable shipping, and easy returns:

  1.   http://shop.nordstrom.com
  2.   http://www.garnethill.com
  3.  https://www.talbots.com/online/home
  4.  http://www.anthropologie.com/anthro/index.jsp
  5.  https://www.chicos.com/store/
  6.   http://www.zappos.com
  7.    http://www.bluefly.com
  8.   http://www.shoptiques.com
  9.    https://www.madewell.com
  10.   http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/
  11.    Target
  12.    https://www.soma.com/store/
  13.    T.J. Maxx
  14.    Marshalls
  15.    Nordstrom Rack
  16.    http://www.herroom.com
  17.    http://www.barenecessities.com
  18.    http://www.anntaylor.com
  19.    https://www.softsurroundings.com
  20.    http://www1.bloomingdales.com/
  21.    www.neimanmarcus.com
  22.    http://us.asos.com/
  23.    http://www.uniqlo.com/us/
  24.   http://www.peruvianconnection.com (has some negative reviews & shipping isn’t cheap; but I bought a coat from this site that I love)
  25.   http://www.Amazon.com (sells EVERYTHING)

Thursday, March 10, 2016

More Self Care – Taking a Vacation Day in the Middle of the Week~



One of the benefits of achieving some seniority at work is additional Paid Time Off (“PTO”) days to use for a day of mental health recharging. While I would really prefer a week at the beach right now, that just isn’t in the cards. So I opted for the next best thing and scheduled a day of PTO for today, an ordinary Thursday that promised to provide one of those pre-spring days that gives a hint of the summer to come.

As I’ve expressed in earlier posts things are a bit stressful at work with all of the changes afoot following my company’s acquisition by a competitor. Despite my best intentions to go with the flow, I’ve found myself struggling with apathy, frustration, sadness, and a lack of focus. My husband told me yesterday when I was in the midst of a rant to “buck it up Buttercup”! I didn’t know whether to laugh of sock him!

To reboot my attitude I indulged in a day of leisure – sipping coffee on the screened in porch reading Vanity Fair surrounded by the cats. Really, what’s with all of the models sporting such dour expressions! If I were wearing such lovely designer fashions I would surely be grinning from ear to ear. A grimace does not make me long for the clothes. And the facial contouring fad must go! But, I digress.

Since I work from home it was an absolute necessity that I venture into town to fully appreciate my mid-week freedom. So I dropped the ragtop on the convertible and sped into town for a relaxing lunch on the patio of my favorite bistro and my Kindle. Nothing says indulgence to me like dining al fresco with a nice glass of Sauvignon Blanc reading a new thriller while enveloped in warm breezes.


After lunch I wandered into shops on the walking mall, visited my favorite boutique and drove a bit with the top down to feel the breeze in my hair. What joy I felt! After my winter hibernation I feel ready to face the world and work again thanks to a much-needed mid-week break.

Saturday, March 5, 2016

Yoga, Pedicure, & An Evening with the Girls = Self Care in Changing Times


For me it is particularly critical to practice self-care during periods of change and uncertainty, which if we are all honest is ever present.  However, since July of 2015 when I read on the Internet that my employer had been sold to a rival insurer, the rollercoaster has delivered many more valleys than peaks in my humble opinion.


I have a job for which I am grateful. Not everybody’s name was penciled in on the org chart. But transition is stressful even when changes are positive. Uncertainty causes apathy, frustration, distraction, introspection, and sadness. Many friends are retiring or moving to other companies.

To keep my attitude focused on the positive facets of the transition at work and the blessings associated with my personal life, I log off my computer at a reasonable time during the week, avoid work related communications over the weekend, and celebrate the joys of life.

My tools for self-care include:

v Gentle yoga 3 – 4 evenings per week;
v An occasional evening after yoga with girlfriends;
v A pedicure every 3-4 weeks;
v Taking an afternoon off work to enjoy lunch at Panera Bread with my Kindle;
v A Sunday afternoon of wine tasting in the Virginia countryside;
v A Saturday morning on the screened in porch with a cup of coffee, a book and the cats;
v 30minutes of Candy Crush or Solitaire;
v My date with Jeopardy!
v Gardening;

v A day in the darkroom;
v A visit to the shooting range;
v Sitting on the deck in an Adirondack chair with a glass of wine just being;
v Investigating a new recipe;
v Diffusing essential oils into my office;
v Watching my husband’s delight cooking in our renovated kitchen;
v Talking to my parents on the phone about zany inconsequential things;
v Sitting on the porch on a warm evening smelling & listening to the rain.

What do you do to practice self-care? Please share.