Thursday, October 30, 2014

Celebrate Everyday and Wear Something that Makes Your Heart Sing!

Brahmin Wallet - LOVE IT!

Since I started working from home 95% of the time, I could plop down at my desk and computer wearing sweats or pajamas and slippers and nobody would know – except me. I would know and feel less professional, less competent,  and certainly less spectacular.

My mom has always encouraged my sister and me to get up, shower, get dressed and put on make-up at the start of the day.  She professed that doing so would help us feel better even on a dreary day. And she was right. While I may not subscribed to the character played by Billy Crystal on Saturday Night Live – Fernando – who always expressed that is was better to look good than to feel good – I do believe that if we look good, we feel better.

A lot of women my age or even younger essentially give up. They don’t like their menopausal bodies and choose to disguise themselves in blandness. But I’m a firm believer that the confidence we’ve built through the years of living life gives us a beauty and character that younger women envy. And if they don’t, they should. Those of us who have survived the turmoil of the 1970’s and 1980’s, broke barriers for women, worked twice as hard, tried to be superstars at home and at work, learned lessons from life, made decisions, and still stayed true to ourselves through it all deserve to celebrate the women we have become, the bodies that have served us, the minds we have cultivated and the face that we have earned.

Calypso St. Barth Cashmere

Although it was first published in 1999, I highly recommend that every woman of a certain age locate a copy of Brenda Kinsel’s book “40 Over 40” – “40 Things Every Women Over 40 Needs to Know About Getting Dressed”. It is still available on

Brenda’s writing style is engaging and encouraging. She advocates that we women should dress to please ourselves and have a right to look fabulous everyday. And she doesn’t mean the fabulous that fashion magazines present. She means the fabulous that each one of us has within us.  She encourages us to celebrate who we are and the body we live in today. That is why I always wear beautiful underwear. Her books taught me to only buy and wear what I love. So I love my yoga clothes, my coats, my handbags, my makeup, my vanishing back Soma bras, and my Tieks ballet flats.

Soma Vanishing Back Bra

So embrace your beauty as the awesome woman you are today. Shape, size, perceived defects, wrinkles – don’t matter. Remember that Helen Mirren is now the face of Lore’al in Europe! Over 40 is fabulous! And as one of my friends pointed out – the hot flashes cause my skin to glow!
Tieks Lovestruck

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