Suck it up, Buttercup! That is what my spousal unit said to me last week when I was expressing my angst about the changes taking place at my place of employment. We are in the midst of re-organization. People’s roles are changing. Titles, job descriptions, territories, scopes of influence, reporting structures, best practices, methods of doing business, and culture are all changing. It is disconcerting on the best days. It can feel overwhelming on the most challenging days.
But my husband’s “suck it up, Buttercup” was a reminder that I have so many reasons to feel grateful. Yes, there are myriad changes afoot. Everybody from top to bottom must accept and adjust to the Brave New World. A learning curve is inevitable.
There are colleagues who are unhappy and resistant. But resistance is futile. Wishing for what was will not make what is any easier.
I am committed to embracing the changes to the best of my abilities. Since I have no control over these changes, I have two choices – I can decide to resent the situation; or I can decide to accept what is inevitable and do my best to move forward with a positive attitude.
Fortunately, I’ve learned after decades of trying to control the uncontrollable that I have control over only one thing – my attitude. The friends and teachers that shared their experiences, strength and hope during my years in Al-Anon, where I sought and found recovery from living with those suffering from addiction, gave me the tools I can use in every aspect of my life to be focused on positivity, the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, and the wisdom to understand that over which I have no control. I am grateful for the road map that the 12 steps of Al Anon provided to live a happy life filled with peacefulness and an attitude of gratitude.
Sometimes I need reminding. So I do appreciate my husband making me laugh with the jolting, out of character “suck it up, Buttercup”!
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