Keeping Perspective When Stressed
Whenever I hear that my “expertise” is needed as a problem solver I immediately presume that whatever I am about to face will be challenging and stressful. And usually, I am correct.
Additionally, when my spousal unit becomes irritable for no apparent reason, I realize for my peace of mind and body, it is essential that I try to practice my mental Tai Chi. Sometimes I am able to practice yoga, which is mentally and physically healing. At other times, I must focus on my attitude. I cannot control the actions, words, motives or inactions of others. But I can control my reactions to the outside stimulus.
If I am at work and my “expertise” is requested, I will dive in. My challenge in those instances is to avoid letting my ego take control so that I become obsessed trying to be a hero and fix it masterfully immediately. I cause myself to wake up in the middle of the night, with my acid reflux churning, and deciding that it makes since to log onto my work site at 4:00am. This is a sign that intervention is needed.
Fortunately, I have subscribed to a year of reminders to keep me aware of tools I can use to deal with stressors and seek balance in my work and private lives.
· I have no control over other people, places and things;
· It is not about me;
· My husband or boss must be having a bad day;
· I work to live; I do not live to work;
· Life isn’t always fair, but it sure beats the alternative;
· Yes, I make mistakes; but I do the best I can with the tools I have at the time;
· If it doesn’t get done today, there is always tomorrow or next week;
· I am not a brain surgeon, a cardiologist, and EMT, or a soldier; what I do at home or at work is not life or death;
· If I forget something, it is not the end of the world (so far);
· I have gratitude for my husband (even when he is grumpy) and appreciate my job – even though every day is not a bed of roses.
· I would rather bat cleanup that be pulled from the line up! I am grateful my employer appreciates my particular set of skills – as esoteric as they may at times be.
So, those are my pearls of wisdom for the evening. Now to go soothe my grumpy savage beast.
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