Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Decision Deficit Disorder~ Don’t Be a Victim!

Decision Deficit Disorder~ Don’t Be a Victim!

Generally, in the medical parlance, DDD stands for degenerative disc disease; however, in my world it represents Decision Deficit Disorder – a chronic condition whereby members of the human race accept an unacceptable status quo rather than take a chance on change, make no decision for fear of making the wrong decision, or live life on autopilot rather than embracing all that the world and life has to offer. 

I’ve suffered from DDD in the past. As a result of my indecision, I’ve stayed in miserable jobs rather than risking contentment by looking for another; stayed married to the wrong man for fear of being alone; stayed blond for fear I wouldn’t like red hair; delayed responding to an online contact from my now current husband because he lived in a different state and I couldn’t fathom selling my house and moving if anything worked out; delayed having Lasik surgery for fear of being blinded; remained in an unhealthy relationship for fear my addict boyfriend with a heart problem would die and I would feel responsible; accepted what is for fear of what might happen.

But what I’ve discovered, after years of spiritual growth through Al-Anon, yoga, mediation, and Healing With The Angels by Doreen Virtue (among other resources) is that taking a risk and embracing change more often than not leads me to a positive outcome or at the very least growth. Chance is inevitable. Is it not better to seek out opportunities, take a risk, and keep moving forward as a result of my own efforts rather than accepting change that is thrust upon me?

In Al Anon I learned that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. The piano finally hit me on the head and it dawned on me that by making changes, by making a decision to change my path, I was healing, moving forward, and embracing life.

The most positive outcomes in my life have resulted from taking a risk, chancing the unknown, taking the bull by the horn and saying “why not?”.  Most of the time it is better to make the wrong decision than to passively make no decision.  If we take responsibility for our own lives, we can reboot if we make an unfortunate decision – and at the very least learn from it.  And I’ve got a lot of learning under my belt.

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